For the last 4 months I’ve been in a class that is exploring intimate relationships. One of the capacities we are playing with is the capacity to be present to my internal data (sensations, emotions, thoughts) while simultaneously being present to the environment and another person (their body language, emotions, words, etc). Can I hold both the fullness of who I am AND the fullness of who you are? Can I notice when I have given more attention to one than the other?
For me this is a fascinating exploration. Sometimes I can be so aware of the other person but I’ve lost track of my own experience and needs. And sometimes my attention is consumed with my internal data leaving no space for another person to land in me. And between these two extremes are many variations.
The trick is to remember, none of these experiences are wrong. Nothing is wrong. With awareness and a willingness to notice what is happening new possibilities arise.
This is another reason I LOVE InterPlay. We play and then we take a moment to reflect. Since we are playing, the stakes are low. Although we take time to reflect on what we just created, we are not occupying our minds with an effort to fix anything. When we are not trying to fix something, our internal radar has more capacity. When we have more capacity on our internal radar, new possibilities can show up on our radar. Once new possibilities show up on our internal radar, we have more choices. This is the experience of freedom…freedom from the limits of our habitual way of being.
Again, there is nothing wrong. Nothing wrong with our habitual ways of being. All of our habits have served us in one way or another. And, sometimes, we outgrow their usefulness or just want something different. Creating room on the internal radar makes space for new possibilities. And InterPlay is a sneaky way to make room on our radar for new possibilities.
For me this is a fascinating exploration. Sometimes I can be so aware of the other person but I’ve lost track of my own experience and needs. And sometimes my attention is consumed with my internal data leaving no space for another person to land in me. And between these two extremes are many variations.
The trick is to remember, none of these experiences are wrong. Nothing is wrong. With awareness and a willingness to notice what is happening new possibilities arise.
This is another reason I LOVE InterPlay. We play and then we take a moment to reflect. Since we are playing, the stakes are low. Although we take time to reflect on what we just created, we are not occupying our minds with an effort to fix anything. When we are not trying to fix something, our internal radar has more capacity. When we have more capacity on our internal radar, new possibilities can show up on our radar. Once new possibilities show up on our internal radar, we have more choices. This is the experience of freedom…freedom from the limits of our habitual way of being.
Again, there is nothing wrong. Nothing wrong with our habitual ways of being. All of our habits have served us in one way or another. And, sometimes, we outgrow their usefulness or just want something different. Creating room on the internal radar makes space for new possibilities. And InterPlay is a sneaky way to make room on our radar for new possibilities.
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